Seeking counseling for me is a good thing because it means that the person is aware that he/she needs help and that having a competent person to help him/her would be wiser than trying to deal or solve one’s problems on his/her own. If I was to go to counseling, I would want a therapist who would be honest, true, and open to my thoughts, feelings, and musings. I would want a counselor who can skillfully establish a trusting relationship with me so I would be more comfortable about sharing my life and experiences (Ivey & Ivey, 2007). I am a very private person and it would probably take me time to be able to freely express my feelings or my problems, and I need a counselor who will respect my inability to talk or put into words my anxieties and emotions. Once I have a trusting and accepting relationship with my counselor, I would want him/her to be able to listen and unconditionally accept my values, judgments, irrationality and fears even if it is contrary to his/her own personal values and beliefs.
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I am a very rationalizing person, I tend to over analyze and rationalize everything that happens to me, and at times, I may become conflicted and inconsistent. I would want a counselor who will be able to gently point out my inconsistencies and make me see that what I am thinking and feeling are not congruent. I would want a counselor who is attentive, full of wisdom, and not very serious at all. Most probably I would go to a counselor who is older than me because I would feel that I am going to a person who is more knowledgeable than me, if I go to someone who is my own age I would always think that we are just the same, going to someone younger than me is not attractive since I can’t believe someone younger would be able to empathize and understand my problems and issues. Lastly, I want a counselor who is goal oriented (Young, 2001), I mean, I am in counseling because I need help and I need to see solutions to my problems, a counselor who does not have any goals for our sessions would not be an effective one.
References
Ivey, A. E. & Ivey, M. B. (2007). Intentional interviewing and counseling 6th ed. Pacific Grove,
CA: Brooks/Cole Publishing Company.
Young, M. (2001). Learning the art of helping: Building blocks and techniques. New Jersey:
Prentice Hall, Inc.
